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About Bernie Gourley

Sand-boarding in the Arabian Desert

Sand-boarding in the Arabian Desert

Why Stories & Movement? I’m a human–a body / brain nexus. At its core, the brain craves a good story. It creates stories, and it consumes them. It wants to predict, understand, and find answers–and it does this by organizing events in ways that are memorable, evocative, and informative–ergo, stories. The body yearns for movement, increasingly challenging movement. It seeks to reduce the chasm between what the brain can imagine and the body can perform. Hence, Stories & Movement. [If you got here by Googling “S&M,” expecting latex face-masks, buttless chaps, and electric cattle prods, my apologies. Wrong S&M.]

I’m an American writer and martial artist living Bangalore, India. I’m currently revising my first novel; its current (re: fourth) working title is Chasing Demons         (FYI: Previous working titles include: The Emperor’s Ninja, Lost Scroll, and Kiss the Cobra.) Chasing Demons interweaves the story of a present-day race to attain a valued ancient artifact with the journal of the 14th century ninja who was the last to possess it. It’s got pirates and ninjas, what more could one want. I’ve published a few nonfiction papers, and occasionally write freelance. I also have a nonfiction book  that I occasionally click away on about the science behind old-school mind and body practices like yoga, traditional martial arts, and systems like Zen Buddhism. Many of these systems can teach us important lessons about optimal human performance of the body and mind–despite the fact that the developers didn’t seem to have a good idea how or why they worked.

A desk life and workday stressors once made me doughy and left me with an accumulation of minor health problems. As a result, since I’ve been in India I’ve begun an intense practice of yoga, started teaching yoga, learned the basics of Thai yoga bodywork (TYB), and have continued to build a challenging martial arts practice. It’s my goal to learn as much as I can about producing a healthy mind & body while combating unhealthy approaches to stress. Having been trained as a social scientist, I was moved by the statement of a yogi who criticized scholars who attempt the grandiose task of understanding society as a whole when they understood so little of themselves. I realized that I was among those who knew far too little about myself at a physical and mental level to construct solutions to society’s problems.

I have my 500 hour yoga teacher certification (RYT500) and Children’s Yoga Teacher certification (RCYT) from the Yoga Alliance through a1000 Yoga  and Amrutha Bindu in Bangalore, and I am continuing to purse yogic studies. I’ve  learned a little Thai Yoga Bodywork (a.k.a. Thai Massage or Nuad Bo Rarn) through the Inner Mountain School of Healing Arts and the Wat Pho Thai Traditional Massage School. My personal education as of late has centered on what modern science can teach us about these ancient systems, and how the benefits of such systems are explained in terms of modern science. I’m also studying how yoga and TYB can be used to help prevent some of the systematic injuries that plague martial artists from Western countries.

My formal educational background is in the social sciences. I have two Master of Science degrees, one in International Affairs and the other in Economics. The former is from Georgia Tech and the latter is from Georgia State University. My studies were focused at the intersection of the strategic (e.g. game theory) and the international.

From 2004 to 2012, I worked at Georgia Tech’s Center for International Strategy, Technology, and Policy on various grant programs dealing with issues at the nexus of science, technology, and international security. My primary responsibilities involved the Sam Nunn Security Program (SNSP) that educated engineers and scientists about the policy world so as to prepare them to lend advice on technical issues. I also worked on the Program on Strategic Stability Evaluation (POSSE), which considered the question of whether strategic stability can be maintained under a draw down of nuclear weapons, and–if so–how.

I’ve practiced a traditional Japanese martial art for over 25 years. In the process, I earned third degree black belts in the Bujinkan and  Jinenkan organizations, and a first degree black belt in the Gi Yu Dojo. I’ve studies the basics of muaythai on my trips to Thailand at the Muay Thai Institute and Tiger MT.  And I’m currently studying the Indian martial art of Kalaripayattu at the Kalari Academy of Performing Arts in Bangalore.

I’m a traveler, and have visited 30-ish countries on 5 continents. I’ve been to Machu Picchu, Angkor Wat, Chichen Itza, Tikal, the Great Wall of China, Stonehenge, the Taj Mahal, Hampi, the caves at Ajanta and Ellora, and many other sites.

This blog,  like my life, is an eclectic goulash of randomness. I will talk about life in India, my studies in the domain of body and mind, and– occasionally–rant for my own amusement and mental health.

Feel free to drop me a line at: berniegourley@gmail.com

 


111 Comments

  1. DoRo says:

    I lived in Valdosta, Georgia in the 80ies!!!

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  2. I am still trying to imagine a writer with a degree in International affairs and Economics… But then it takes all kinds. 🙂

    I am enjoying your blog, and if it is anything to go about I am sure I would enjoy your books.

    (please note I am trying to be as nice as possible due to my fear of your black belts)

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  3. Anonymous says:

    Goulash is great….I enjoy your blog.

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  4. I want to thank ALL the virtual lives of Bernie Gourley for visiting my “pun-ny” photoblog and leaving a “like.”
    –John R.: http://TheDailyGraff.com

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  5. I used to live in proximity to Stone Mountain. Nice!

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  6. ksbeth says:

    thanks for stopping by and following me on this cold michigan day, while comfortably tucked away in your georgian enclave, i look forward to reading more of your stuff – beth

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  7. Thank you sir for dropping by and liking our post!And greatest luck with the books, don’t forget to come back and visit us again soon 🙂

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  8. Nin says:

    Thank you for stopping by and leave a comment; I like your term of “eclectic goulash of randomness.” That make me smile 🙂

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  9. kevinmayne says:

    Thanks for the likes on Idonotdespair.com and great to meet a fellow traveller

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  10. Expat Eye says:

    Thanks for stopping by and for the like! Good luck with the novels! Linda.

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  11. quo1 says:

    Just wanted to give you a heads up that I nominated you for The Very Inspiring Blogger Award. You can find the rules for accepting the award
    at:
    http://landofquo.com/award-season/very-inspiring-blogger-award/

    I’ll also take this opportunity to apologize for the effort you will have to expend in accepting the award if you choose to do so. It takes a while, but is worth it to the blog community (that’s what they’ve told me, anyway). Regardless, thanks for making the blogworld more inspiring in your own way. Congrats, and thanks!

    quo

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  12. antiomegler says:

    Thanks for the likes! Cheers!

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  13. guayja1 says:

    Thanks for liking my ‘Overtone’ stories. Your ‘likes’ always come after a page hit, so I suspect you may actually be reading my stuff! (unlike most likes I get 😉 )

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    • B Gourley says:

      Yeah I try do a quick read through of everything I like (so I don’t end up volunteering to move furniture or pick anybody up from the airport. i.e. “Press like if you agree to…”)

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  14. Jasmine says:

    I have nominated you for the Sunshine Award. I know you might be too busy editing your novels to continue the chain, but it’s the thought that counts, right!? http://talesthroughtime.wordpress.com/2013/03/25/sunshine-award/

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  15. A Renaissance Person! Your blog is fascinating!

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  16. alslaff says:

    Just stopping by to thank you for your like on Shift Key and to peruse your site. Good goulash.

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  17. Kavita Joshi says:

    wow…so many things you have done and places seen…very nice to meet you…I am browsing your blog and love your cover pic in the background..very catchy…thanks for visiting my blog 🙂

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  18. Thanks for visiting my blog and leading me to yours! Some wonderful stories, anecdotes and photos. I look forward to digging in to read more 🙂

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  19. Thanks for the review like, i’ve always wanted to visit Tallinn, looks stunning.

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  20. It’s my first visit. Interesting. I’ll be back, and thanks for visiting my blog.

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  21. HI BG: Thanks for the likes on some of my posts on the Reluctant Retiree. Many apologies for the delay in acknowledgement. Just back home now and catching up. I will be following your blog with interest. GG

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  22. magwood says:

    Thanks or your like Bernie. I recognised a lot of the tuk tuk driver lies! Am looking forward to reading more of your blog.

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  23. What a full life you are living! Thanks for visiting and liking my blog.

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  24. Capt Jill says:

    Thanks for liking my ‘arch’ entry to the word of the week challenge. You sound like you must have the most interesting life over there. I’ve always wanted to go to India but still haven’t made the trip.:-(

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  25. Jack Moor says:

    Hi Bernie, thanks for dropping by. You have a most interesting blog!

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  26. gikemoss says:

    Thanks for dropping by and liking the thoughts inspired by the Fraser Spiral. I have many friends that are doing work missions work in India. And like many have shared, best of look on turning those books into some income! I am on a similar quest, though just embarking …

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  27. Hi, Thank you for stopping by and liking my post.

    Nice to see your blog, and all the best for your work in progress.

    Have a great time in Bangalore.

    Sreejith.

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  28. Thanks to a reblog I found your post. ,new follower today I’m enjoying your posts. Thank you. Susan

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  29. Thanks for visiting and liking the blog . Wishing you happiness and success in all your endeavours . Namaste .

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  30. rigmover says:

    Hey thanks for the visit and like on my blog, you have a great blog here.

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  31. pbomar1115 says:

    After reading about you, I felt compelled to respond, because I share a similar goal: Self improvement. Also, I always make an effort toward mental clarity and good health. More importantly, it’s refreshing to come across someone who share the same goals when you learn about them.

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  32. Rajiv M says:

    Hi thanks for stopping by my blog and the precious “Like” you left on one of my post.
    I am software engineer, music keyboard learner + teacher and am also living in bangalore . . . Hoping we could have a chance to meet 🙂

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  33. My son and I are both tigers in the Chinese zodiac. 🙂 Always been fascinated with them, as well as the deeper spiritual meaning behind them as well.

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  34. Thank you for reading about the work of the Servants of Charity in India. If you are still in Bangalore, look us up. We are always looking for friends to help us out, even if it is just with words of encouragement.

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  35. nmafzal says:

    Thanks for stopping by. Keep up the good work. 🙂

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  36. Miia says:

    What an interesting life you have! Have you been living in India for a long time? My dream… How did you like Hampi? I was very impressed by it!

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  37. Thanks for following my blog

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  38. belsbror says:

    Greetings! Awards time, fellow blogger!
    I nominate you for The Cracking Chrispmouse Bloggywog Award.
    You can check. http://wp.me/p32YrK-1tx for more details.
    Have a wonderful day!
    Blessings,
    belsbror

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  39. Thanks for liking my blog. The top of a California mountain feels like another world to me, living in big cities all my life. I have three books on the go too!

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  40. updegrove says:

    Thanks for liking my Elixir review, and for leading me back to your blog. You’re leading a very interesting life!

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  41. asthaguptaa says:

    You’re so well traveled! Lovely! 🙂
    by the way, I live in Bangalore – so welcome! Let me know if you want any advice or traveling tips around here 🙂

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  42. Thank you for stopping by Storyteller. — Ray

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  43. Grace says:

    Bernie, I enjoy your daily photos. If you can lay hands on it sometime, take a look at photographer Michael Freeman’s first edition (1997, Focal Press) of, “The Photographer’s Eye.” Many of his composition examples were captured in that part of the world. Very inspiring. Don’t worry about the technicality of it all. You might find that getting closer within those scenes takes you into a rich realm of detail. Namaste. Grace

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  44. Grace says:

    All hail Phra Phikanet! Now THAT’S getting closer. Bravo.

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  45. Sonu Duggal says:

    Hi, thank you for stopping by and liking my blog.

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  46. beingkodyson says:

    inspiring, entertaining, adventurous, lovely.

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  47. lbeth1950 says:

    Thanks for following nutsrok.

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  48. mincs1 says:

    Thank-you for stopping by my blog and liking today’s post. Your bio sounds very interesting and I look forward to reading what you choose to share!

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  49. gertloveday says:

    You sound like a man after our own heart. We’re heavily into Iyengar yoga and the mind-body connection. Thanks for the like on our blog. We’ll be back regularly to see what you’re up to.

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  50. Joy says:

    You’ve got an interesting blog here – thanks for checking out mine and liking a post – will be following you 🙂

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  51. marjma2014 says:

    Wow, such an interesting blog. Following you as of today. 🙂

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  52. Hi Bernie, thanks for liking my blog. Another expat! Cool. I’ve spent most of my adult life in India and Sri Lanka. Someone recently said, ‘Sitting is the new cancer.’ As a professional writer and now, teacher of Buddhist thought, I also spend way too much time flying a desk. Keep up the effort to stay in shape, it’s worthwhile!

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  53. shawn says:

    Bernie, thanks for sharing! I would love to hear about your travels to Ankor Wat and any tips for things to do, things to avoid, etc. I too study martial arts. Kenpo Karate that was derived from Nick Cerio’s style as well as Universal Kempo. The first has more Japanese influence, the second more Chinese although they both share common roots in Hawaii. I’m an IT guy, so I understand the sitting at a desk and getting “doughy” as you put it. It is good to have something to help keep the dough from rising too much 😉

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    • B Gourley says:

      As for Angkor, a couple days will do you unless you are a hardcore amateur archaeologist. If you have more time there are more outlying sites, but we didn’t visit them. Siem Reap is a cool little town. We took the bus from Phnom Penh and that worked well. I think the same could be said for coming from Thailand. I’ve heard bad things about taking the boat during high season (i.e. they overbook and there’s not enough seats for all the people. Its a little far for roof riding.) Kenpo sounds interesting, though I don’t know much about it.

      All the best.

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  54. dessiENCORE says:

    I just wanted to take a second to say thank you for the daily photo’s. It is quite a gift to share with others who can’t be where you are. I love them and they make me smile. keep up all the great work and I wish you the best with any and everything 🙂

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  55. ireadnovels says:

    Love your gnome stories. From ireadnovels.wordpress.com

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  56. c says:

    Yoda sounds ridiculously familiar. For our familiar someone so desperate for relevance, and with infinite combinations of language at his disposal, one might expect more creative plagiarism.

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  57. Ellen Hawley says:

    I like the current title of your novel, but although I can see where The Emperor’s Ninja might tilt too heavily toward one side of a two-sided story, I’m drawn even more to it as a title.

    Sadly, once a novel lands a publisher, the title’s basically smoke. It’s likely to change 14 times before publication. Which is more of less what happened to my most recent novel. We went through I can’t remember how many possibilities before the publisher finally changed it back to what it had been when I sent it to them. Go figure.

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  58. C says:

    Great observations in your children’s yoga post. Pediatric physical therapists educated me early in my clinical career on this point: kids with balance & coordination difficulties will often use speed to compensate for instability.

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  59. susietomasio says:

    Dear Bernie! I really enjoyed reading your blog and see how you changed your career from social sciences to writer and teacher.
    I am having a similar problem that you experienced years ago. My background is Chemistry. I have a PhD in computationa chemistry and I have been doing research for a few years. Only after completed my PhD I realised that I actually don’t want to this all my life. Then five years ago I started doing Yoga and Martial Arts and now I am also doing Acroyoga and Acrobalance and all I want to do is dedicate my life to this. Maybe move somewhere else like you did. The problem obviously is that we need some money to “survive”. So this is my dilema at the moment!
    It would be great to read an article from you describing how you did this. 🙂
    Many thanks!
    Best wishes,
    Susana

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  60. juliasbraga says:

    Hi! Thank you for stoping by and introducing me to your blog. Can’t wait to read more.
    If you feel like sharing an inspiring story of your life at eight for a change, let me know. It would be awesome!

    Have a great day!

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  61. Ellen Hawley says:

    Yours sounds like an interesting life.

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  62. JMJ
    Dear Bernie,
    Thank you so much for reading about the Servants of Charity. We do have Houses in Bangalore and would love for you to stop by and see what we do there. There is always the need for more volunteers if you could spare any time. Continue the good work.

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  63. Tony says:

    Ah well… the nice thing about people liking my posts is that it prompts me to read theirs. I also am a yoga practitioner. It’s my life. Thanks for your blog, I’ve enjoyed the bits I’ve read so far & will enjoy reading more. Tony

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  64. Grace says:

    B, Interesting neuroscience stumble upon:
    http://connectomethebook.com/

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  65. Hayley says:

    I look forward to hearing more of you ‘randomness’ 😉 thank you for stopping by my page! I hope your book is going well xx

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  66. Thanks for liking my post Bernie. Hope you enjoy life in Bangalore – it’s too hectic for me! I was living in the countryside outside Madurai (Tamil Nadu) until a year ago and loved it.

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  67. lexandneek says:

    Hi Bernie! Thank you for liking our post on the Vancouver Lookout Tower. Looking forward to reading more of your posts about your thoughts and surroundings. Enjoyed reading Mind and Eye

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  68. Rashminotes says:

    Very interesting blog! Look forward to reading many of your posts:) Thanks a ton for stopping by mine!

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  69. madbooklove says:

    Thanks so much for visiting my blog and liking my book review. You are living a rather incredible life, dear sir. I envy your education and travels and general life perspective. Looking forward to reading more about your adventures. 🙂

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  70. dogslegs says:

    Hi Bernie. That’s quite and impressive curriculum vitae. I’ve had a good wander around your blog. I’m normally not one for poetry, but your Halloween poem is a cracker! That’s what drew me in…follow.

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  71. WordWabbit says:

    Could you provide any tips for a western woman traveling alone in India, in Mumbai and Aurangabad?

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    • B Gourley says:

      Before giving you the warnings that may be a little anxiety-inducing, I should point out that you’ll likely have a great time and have no dangerous experiences. The vast majority of Indians are kind, friendly, polite, and often helpful to a fault. Mumbai is highly cosmopolitan and so you’ll likely feel more comfortable there, but–be careful–because that doesn’t mean you’re safer. In Aurangabad you’ll get stared at and approached for photos like you’re a celebrity–not necessarily because you are a woman by yourself, but just because you are foreign and they don’t see as many and they really like to meet foreigners–that doubly goes for if you’re going out to the caves.

      That said, I’m sure you’re aware of the isolated horror stories. The big precautions that spring to mind are:

      1.) Always pick your own transport (autorickshaws / tuk-tuks or taxis.) Drivers that approach you generally have something in mind, at best this is that they can exorbitantly overcharge you as a foreigner or divert you to “uncle’s shop” but the worst case is much worse. 99% of drivers are just working people trying to make a living, but the 1% will make themselves disproportionately known to you.

      2.) It’s generally a good idea to dress more modestly than one would in most of Asia (or warm weather places in Europe and America.) I realize that it’s ridiculous that you should have to curtail your dress in a climate that is frequently hot, but while India may be geographically as close to Thailand as it is to Saudi Arabia, in many ways culturally it’s closer to the latter. Except among the more modern-minded middle and upper classes, young men and women are often kept segregated such that many young men are both super-horny and have not a clue as to how to politely interact with the opposite sex. Too often they get their ideas from bodice-ripping Bollywood. Probably, wearing shorts will just get you stared at more that usual (by virtue of being a foreigner [unless you look passably Indian] you’ll get starred at some, regardless.)

      3.) If you drink, you’ll need to exercise greater caution–especially being alone. A lot of those horror stories involve inebriated women being taken advantage of or roofied.

      Otherwise, the general self-defense rules apply: 1.) don’t let anyone order you to go anywhere. 2.) don’t let anyone take away your mobility.

      The reason I emphasize not getting in the wrong transport and being careful when drinking is that–unlike examples in the US in which a person screaming has completely ignored–in India if there are people around, and you call for help, there will likely be a tidal wave of help on its way. The attitude is much less “not my monkeys, not my circus” than in the West and more of community spirit. Therefore, the key is just to not get into situations where help isn’t near at hand.

      I hope I haven’t scared you. I used to be a cop and have taught a bit of self-defense in my time, and so I have a lot to say on the issue.

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      • WordWabbit says:

        No, you haven’t scared me. I’m so happy to get the advice! And so happy to hear that people will be helpful and not just ignore me if I need them. I’ve traveled in Russia and it was a similar situation. You didn’t want to be stupid, but people would lend a hand quickly if needed. I was wondering about that. I don’t drink, so that won’t be a problem and I’ve heard to only drink bottled water, so I’ll be able to watch what’s going on with my water. I don’t think it’s ridiculous at all to conform the their cultural norms. When in Rome… Also, I would like to diminish as much as possible my tourist status. This, I realize probably won’t be possible because I am very fair skinned. I was thinking that I would wear the kurti tunics and some blousy pants with sandals, and keep a scarf handy to throw over my head. I thought that Aurangabad would be more touristy and would be used to more fair skinned tourists, so it’s good to know that won’t necessarily be the case. I was going to study up on some Marathi basics. Thanks again!

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      • B Gourley says:

        So there are a fair amount of tourists who go to Aurangabad as part of travel that takes them to the caves at Ellora and Ajanta. However, a good portion of the volume travel on tour buses or in private vehicles and have a fairly sheltered experience, and so the average local still doesn’t see a lot of foreigners. I tend to use public transport and like to walk a lot, so I bump into more locals than average. Also, since the caves are a little bit far to get to relative to other tourist sights, they aren’t as heavily tread by foreigners as one might think. Well, instead I should say that a huge percentage of the tourists are from China and other countries with large Buddhist populations. I don’t think they attract as much attention because near the border their are a lot of Indians with Asian features (more Tibetan than Han, but some of both) so they don’t seem as foreign. Fair hair definitely attracts attention and interest (I just mean interest in the sense of people wanting to interact with you.) If you’ve traveled in China, you may have had a similar experience, particularly outside the big city.

        Mumbai has people of every imaginable skin and hair color and so no one tends to bat an eye at it.

        Yes, bottled water is a must. If you are in a nice restaurant the water is likely filtered, but it’s best to stay on the safe side, particularly if you haven’t done much developing world travel.

        Ethnic wear (as it’s called here, i.e. what locals tend to wear) is always safe. A scarf is a good idea because if you come across mosques or gurdwara (Sikh temple) you’ll need head covering. Leg covering is pretty much a must at any temple. Sandals are good because you’ll need to be able to kick them off and leave them at racks to go inside the temples.

        Some Marathi is good. Most people who have an education speak English, but less so in Maharastra than where I live. (In Bangalore, English is the lingua franca because there are so many people from outside the state of Karnataka here.0 You shouldn’t worry that you won’t be able to get along with English, but people always love if you can at least greet them in the local tongue.

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      • WordWabbit says:

        I’m going for a friends wedding, but after that I’m on my own for several days, and the caves, so far, I think will be the main focus of my visit. So wonderful tips, especially about the sandals. Thank you!

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      • WordWabbit says:

        OK, I’m going to take back what I said. After reading the news, I’m a little freaked out. Lots of guns, lots of crazy over the top violence against women. So my usual tips for myself are: Never go out at night alone. Never encourage people who are trying to talk to you and if they continue get really loud and rude fast. I’m adding, no nightclubs period. No buses and no trains. I’m thinking that a guided tour set up by the hotel should be fine. And I’m guessing that there is no way I’ll be able to blend in. I saw that you are married. What does your wife do when people start hassling her? I’m thinking that my standard get loud and angry quick, might not be the best response because people have guns and throw acid at women. And I’m aware that in tourist areas I’m at more of a risk because that would be the place to target people who are out of their element and holding onto some dollars, etc. I’m thinking my best bet is safety in numbers, like a tour group or guide from the hotel. Do you agree? And I would be interested in any tips from your wife. Thank you!!

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      • B Gourley says:

        Careful with the news, obviously they only report the most attention grabbing events and this is a country of over a billion so even the rarest of events may seem to pop up frequently. Guns are actually a great rarity here except among the military and paramilitary forces. Even the run-of-the-mill cops, e.g. traffic cops, don’t carry them. In Kashmir, the most violence prone area by far, you’ll note that the big threat is rock throwing.

        Now, as for the violence against women, the news is not as positive. However, the vast majority of that violence is carried out against low-income / low-caste women (the caste system is illegal in theory but alive and well in people’s minds.) That doesn’t make it any less reprehensible, but it does mean you’re in a rare demographic for it. The girl in Delhi who was lured onto a fake bus (the bus was real, but it wasn’t really public transport) got so much global attention because she was a college kid, middle class, and that doesn’t happen much.

        I would staying away from nightclubs is an excellent idea–particularly as you are traveling alone.

        However, most of the people who will come up to you to talk will be perfectly respectable and polite individuals. Many want to practice their English. Some want to learn more about the world. Many will be parents trying to get their kids to talk to you. I would say that as long as you are comfortable with the nature of the conversation and you are in an area with people around, you don’t need to react too harshly. However, if you feel uncomfortable with where the talk is going, and particularly if they are trying to get you to go elsewhere, then your suggestion is a good one.

        Travel in a group is a good idea.

        My wife gets hit on more here in India than anywhere else in the world. Not unexpectedly, never in my presence, but usually when she’s shopping. This has never amounted to more than a brief annoyance. Again, as long as there are people around, guys are unlikely to get too carried away because it’s a very traditional society so they don’t want to make a scene. You’d be surprised how terrified young Indians are of their parents, even once one would think they were too old to care. (They tend to emancipate late and the parents are so integral to getting married–arranged marriages are still the norm.) So threatening to tell the guys mom about his ungentlemanly behavior may be all you need. Just kidding about threatening to tell the guy’s mommy… unless it works.

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      • WordWabbit says:

        Hahaha! That’s awesome. Well, I will definitely learn that phrase in Marathi! “I’m going to tell your mother!” I love it. I think that may be a very good tip. Hopefully, I won’t have to try it. I was also reading up about how women dress to indicate that they are married, and along with dressing appropriately, I think I’m going to also incorporate those. I have to research it a bit more, but it includes a certain type of necklace and the pigment on the hairline, I think the ring is on the left hand, and there are a couple of other things. Sort of like in the West, if a guy knows you are married, he won’t start thinking that way. It’s a good filter.

        As far as the new goes, yes, that makes sense. I had heard about Delhi, but what had concerned me was the local Aurangabad news. I love meeting real people when I travel and most people I think are really good, but this thing with women is very troubling. Though, like you said I seem to be out of the demographic for most of these crimes. Still it seems monstrous that men act like that, and it definitely doesn’t fit with the super polite image I’ve had of Indians so far. But I guess when you’re dealing with human beings, we have that running through us.

        Well, thank you so much for taking the time to tell me all that you have. I really appreciate it.

        I have only read a few posts on your blog, but I hope you are working on a book! You definitely have one in you. 🙂

        Thanks again!

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